Happiness at a stretch

 Unwind happiness 

1. Happiness is innate, ingrained and deep-seated within you. People attach meaning of happiness with material gains such as having luxurious items, a grand house or an imported car or branded items or an extravagant vacation and so on. These possessions may have some meaning to those who relate status symbol with material possessions. Happiness is internal and can be realised with pure heart. Listen to this to understand the real happiness.

You may live without many things but at the ultimate end what you will need in life is “a hand to hold” and “a shoulder to rest your head”. This will give you ultimate satisfaction of being live with someone. 

2. Apprehensions provoke you to block roads of happiness. You doubt, object, fight and ultimately get distressed because of apprehensions.  This distress culminates into number of diseases. 

3. If you are really want to be happy in life, accept the things and people as they are. Don’t even try changing others at once by criticising, blaming or pulling legs, but find happiness in smallest changes that you do to them to make a bigger comfort zone for yourself.

4. If you expect modesty from others, be modest yourself. If you want to get peace, give peace a place in your mind. Your brain is a centre stage to design quality of your life. A healthy and happy brain is a source of happy mind and a healthy and happy mind creates a healthy body. 

5. Talk to yourself if you are looking solutions for some personal problems. But when you talk to yourself don’t justify what you say or believe rather contradict it, contrast it and critique it as if your are your own opponent. This will provide you with many alternatives to probable solutions. It normally happens that our belief system does not allow space for new thought because it says, “what I believe is only right “. But when you initiate criticism of your own thoughts, it will vent way for change in your own beliefs slowly and believe me, you will find surmountable change in your thinking style in day’s to come.

Your life may change when you start thinking about your own belief system.

Open your Joy- Channel

 Open your joy channel

If you are most times in pains, you tend to have your pain channels open and as a result pain becomes the natural flow of emotions for any reaction. Your brain, in that case simply understands pains, pains and only pains. So it receives pain signals and delivers pain signals. Joy channel or happiness channel become foreign to it. So if you are impulsive, aggressive, agitated and angered most of the time then be sure that your pain delivering neurological gateway are wide open.

Your body tend to discharge harmful chemicals and poisonous matter as a result of mind-body interactions of pain and misery. Even a little anxiety becomes the source of ignition to those active neurotransmitters capable to release poison in the body. This also clogs many pathways and seal many happiness channels. The important point to bring good health to you is open up the happiness channels. The joy channels and happiness channels become dormant. Each cell of the body responds to signals from brain through these neurotransmitters. If cells are happy and healthy, you will remain happy and healthy. But if these cells have to receive only poison all the time they will become weak and fragile. They die faster than their normal life-span and as a result your body starts ageing faster than its natural course of ageing. If you want to remain happy and healthy and want to die peacefully, you will have to keep your cells happy and healthy. And for that, most important action you have to do is to train your mind to convert the pain channels to neutral channels first and later recharge these channels as pleasure channels. Reopening is an exercise that needs to be carried out and practiced regularly in life, else your body will forget feel good feelings and you will end up in a diseased state. There is absolutely “No no no” medicine to open up happiness channels except for neurotransmitters to be awakened, recharged and reactivated. Pranayam and meditation are the practices need to be adapted as part of life to find a way for rejuvenation. These practices are need to be learned from the masters who know the science and art of pranayam and meditation. 

There are so many pitfalls in life which become glaring concern of failure in later stage and you tend to think that”had I had not taken such decisions “.

How to have a sound immune system?

How can I learn and perform faster and better. How to overcome my anxiety and aggression. How to control my words, anger and agitation.

How to be a good parents.

How to choose the right career.

How to make my relationship wonderful.

How to remain happy and healthy. 

These are few questions where nobody but you have to find your answer. Managing one’s life effectively and efficiently is key for success and happiness in life. Often you learn it by yourself or follow others which certainly is not a viable option. Develop conscious decision making, passion, resilience or become emotionally intelligent can not happen by chance. This can happen only by customised scientific training of “self-management” which we call “Life-n-richment”. 

A word of caution-  Never fall victim to hacks and quacks otherwise you will end up cursing me. ..

There are four stages for adapting any change in one’s lifestyle.

Surveillance >> design >> modification >>adaptation 

Surveillance is assessment of lifestyle changes  required for a healthy and happy life.