Do you enjoy getting angry.... Do you think that getting angry is a routine, like I eat food, I drink water, I do this and I do that... so I do get angry also... What is so uncommon about it? Nothing so special at all....But when you get angry, your body chemistry goes into turmoil. Your internal mechanism get drenched with nonsense, filthy and dirty chemicals that gets accumulated at almost every nook & corner of the body. Now think of these questions...
- Are you often angry?
- Do you frequently over react?
- Do you take your anger out on someone other than the person you’re angry with?
- Do you hold grudges, pout, or sulk?
- Do you stay angry for a long time?
- Are you scared of your anger?
- Are other people scared of your anger?
- Does your anger negatively affect the people you live or work with?
- Do you ever get violent when you’re angry?
If you answered yes to two or more of these questions, you may have a problem with anger. And anger may be keeping you from communicating effectively.
Getting angry, "if its a routine", then the matter is serious enough to take guard of situation immediately before it becomes urgent. The question is... where from this anger comes?? Anger comes from anxiety. Anxiety is the internal state of the individual when he/she is compromising his/her comfort zone. A little discomfort causes anxiety and throughput is anger. The worst part of anger are those innumerable harmful chemicals generated within our body due to brain flashes caused by anger. These chemicals cause upset stomach, headache, acidity, insomnia, bulimia and what not. As a matter of fact, these chemicals are the origin of future diseases which you are going to have. There is no one way to stop these chemicals from oozing out. The body gets adapt to these chemicals slowly but the most harmful effect is, the brain looses connection with certain internal mechanism where these chemicals are stored. And still worst is the violence seen in the society that is the outcome of anger. People, country who love violence, breed anger within them. Negativity bounce in their lives so much that they live dual life.
what annoys you??
When you are in a class or out of class and some strange behaviour of your students annoy you, what you need to do? Get angry, furious or just ignore. If you leave your unlocked bike in the centre of town, it is likely to get stolen. This can be frustrating and is likely to give rise to feelings of anger. Of course, we should minimise this kind of situation – simply remember to lock your bike. If we feel there is an injustice in our workplace, we should work to resolve it; this will make our work environment more peaceful and less prone to creating anger. If we have a partner who is abusive, the solution is not just dealing with our own anger, but finding a more peaceful living situation.
Most of the time in our life, you need to use Common Sense.
How should I NOT get angry???First thing, it is important to minimise the internal discomfort. Take the things/people /situation as they are. Don't put your brain unnecessarily to it. And the second important thing to NOT to get angry is, "don't fight with the anger". When you get angry, you fight with your own emotions and give it a rise till it bursts. When it comes, take a little stroll, drink a little water or watch a beautiful picture. And do the best you can for anything you are doing (for which you will feel good & pride internally). If you are cleaning do it in the best way. If you are writing, do it the best way.
My roads are dirty, it angers me. People drive rash, it angers me. Government doesn't do the right thing, it angers me. Let me guide this anger to another path where it takes a little stroll and I funnel it to a different channel. When we try to transcend anger, it doesn’t mean we have to acquiesce to injustice and unfairness. We should strive to make the world a better place. However, whatever our goals, it is always best to act with poise and a clear mind. Acting under the influence of anger makes it more difficult to attain what we wish to achieve.
