Happiness at a stretch

 Unwind happiness 

1. Happiness is innate, ingrained and deep-seated within you. People attach meaning of happiness with material gains such as having luxurious items, a grand house or an imported car or branded items or an extravagant vacation and so on. These possessions may have some meaning to those who relate status symbol with material possessions. Happiness is internal and can be realised with pure heart. Listen to this to understand the real happiness.

You may live without many things but at the ultimate end what you will need in life is “a hand to hold” and “a shoulder to rest your head”. This will give you ultimate satisfaction of being live with someone. 

2. Apprehensions provoke you to block roads of happiness. You doubt, object, fight and ultimately get distressed because of apprehensions.  This distress culminates into number of diseases. 

3. If you are really want to be happy in life, accept the things and people as they are. Don’t even try changing others at once by criticising, blaming or pulling legs, but find happiness in smallest changes that you do to them to make a bigger comfort zone for yourself.

4. If you expect modesty from others, be modest yourself. If you want to get peace, give peace a place in your mind. Your brain is a centre stage to design quality of your life. A healthy and happy brain is a source of happy mind and a healthy and happy mind creates a healthy body. 

5. Talk to yourself if you are looking solutions for some personal problems. But when you talk to yourself don’t justify what you say or believe rather contradict it, contrast it and critique it as if your are your own opponent. This will provide you with many alternatives to probable solutions. It normally happens that our belief system does not allow space for new thought because it says, “what I believe is only right “. But when you initiate criticism of your own thoughts, it will vent way for change in your own beliefs slowly and believe me, you will find surmountable change in your thinking style in day’s to come.

Your life may change when you start thinking about your own belief system.

Resilience concept map

Words have Power- My Life Metaphor

Your "Life Vocabulary" decides quality of your life. Vocabulary is a list or collection of the words or phrases of a language, technical field, etc., or collection of symbols or even non-verbal connotations. "Life Vocabulary" is the collection of all those words, phrases, symbols or non-verbal connotations, signals or impressions which we normally use in our day-to-day life repeatedly to communicate, address or present ourselves in the life-events. We habitually use these words or non-verbal signals/cues again and again to express ourselves. These words or non-verbal cues/ signals represent our internal make-up of our mind or our thought process. Our thoughts and the metabolism are inter-connected.
Have you ever thought??

• Why some people get angry too easily?
• Why some people have low self-esteem and poor confidence level?
• Why some people have extremely low tolerance??

The answer lies in the thought process which the individual normally follows. Let us understand the relationship of our thoughts and our metabolism. The moment a thought appears in the brain, flashes occur and these flashes send thousands of signals to different organs of the body resulting in release of numerous chemicals which we normally call hormones. These chemicals trigger different physiological actions or reactions which is indicated by a behaviour pattern. This process leads to another set of thoughts and the cycle continues.
Words have power. Words can cure, as well they can also injure. Injuring words are spoken whenever we are emotionally charged, irritate, become anxious or impulsive. More often, these words injure a person first who use them before they injure the listeners. The quality of words which we choose to represent ourselves, depend upon our "Life Metaphor". 

• All of our earlier experiences and assumptions are stored in the mind box. The key of this mind box is called a ‘global metaphor’.
• This “global metaphor" comes from our belief system.
• Our thoughts are constantly guided by these metaphors.
• One metaphor attracts another of similar nature.
• Metaphors acts as scaffold for anchoring new learning whether GOOD or BAD.

 Metaphors are  thoughts initiators,  catalysts, emotional  chargers,  key to life or

internal manager of the brain. If I own a negative metaphor e.g.  I am critical then I will look everything critically and that too negatively critical. This will messed up my life as well as of all those who are around me.

Our physical, mental and emotional life is guided by the vocabulary we choose for ourselves. Each word chosen by us has deep impact on our emotions, thoughts and actions.  As I said,

the words you choose to communicate are the indicators of your internal representations and that is how you experience the words spoken by others.

Negatively poised words create negative internal emotions & expressions, which guide our actions negatively.  Negative emotions & expressions produce harmful internal chemicals through our body chemistry. The type & frequency of production of such chemicals depend upon your metabolism. Negatively oriented metabolism create disease state in the body.

NEGATIVE METAPHORS

•          AGGRESSIVE = I can kill someone.

•          CRITICAL = Things will always go wrong.

•          PESSIMISTIC = Nothing can improve.

•          DISEMPOWERING = I am loosing heart.

•          AGITATING = Everybody is selfish.

POSITIVE METAPHORS

•          CHARGED = Let me prove others wrong.

•          ENERGISING = Yes, I can do it.

•          OPTIMISTIC = I can see a ray of hope.

•          EMPOWERING = Life is beautiful.

•          LIVELY = GOD is always there to help me.

Refrain from owning a negative metaphor. this kills.