Transforming the life vocabulary

Transforming the life vocabulary

Your life vocabulary is the selection of words you normally choose to express in day-to-day

conversation or even thinking. Each thought coming to your mind or each word spoken by you reverberates in the system and produce electrical impulses through the neurotransmitters. Each electrical impulse affects some specific part of nervous and lymphatic system of our body through the brain. Your brain receives and processes more than one million such signals per second, which sends different responses to different internal systems and subsystems of the body. A as a result of effect of electrical impulses several thousand chemicals are produced in the system. Each chemical has its own effect on the body metabolism and immune system. Your physical, mental and emotional life is guided by the vocabulary you choose to converse or think. Each word chosen by you has deep impact on your emotions, thoughts and actions.  The words you choose to communicate are the indicators of your internal representations and that is how you experience the words spoken by others. Words can injure our egos or inflame our hearts- we can instantly change any emotional experience simply by choosing new words. This is known as transformation of life vocabulary. If you fail to master the life vocabulary and the words, their selection is then guided by subconscious habit, thus making a habit of using negatively poised words. Modification of life vocabulary is possible through transforming the vocabulary by intentionally choosing the positive words instead of negatively poised words. This also helps in changing the life metaphor. Using emotionally charged transformed vocabulary can metamorphose your own internal state as well as the state around you.

TRANSFORMATION OF VOCABULARY

Negatively poised sentence	Transformed Sentence
•      I feel disgusted as everything here stinks.	•      I will be surprised if everything starts changing here.
•       Trust in the governance is getting lost day-by-day.	•       We have to search indicators of improvements in the governance.
•       Families are disintegrating fast.	•       Families live very differently today.
•       Why others should get it, if they do not deserve.	•       One who deserves, definitely gets the return at one point of time.
•       I am too lonely to fight in this world of anarchy.	•       You have to find similar minded people to makes changes in this world.
•       I fear when i go out.	•       One must remain concerned about safety when you go out.
•       I hate to be here.	•       I prefer a constructive change here.
•       I am seriously disappointed by your actions.	•       Your actions are bit underwhelming.
•       I am too confused to decide anything.	•       I remain curious while taking decision.
•       I feel too depressed now a days.	•       I feel on a road to a  turn-around.
•       The humiliation was too painful for me.	•       Your actions were utter surprise to me.
•       Frustration has taken everything from our youths.	•       Our youths are fascinated about fast changes in their lives.
•       I feel irritated when i talk to someone.	•       I feel challenged when i talk to someone.
•       I am exhausted in convincing you.	•       I need recharging to convince you.
•       Oh!!!Shit…things are getting worse.	•       Oh…god!!! I expect some miracle now.

चेतना का रहस्य और कुम्भ

चेतना शब्द से अभिप्राय यह है कि हम अपने आसपास के बारे में, अपने बारे में कितने चैतन्य, जागरूक हैं, विचारशील हैं। आजकल चेतना यानि consciousness पर दुनिया भर के शोध केन्द्रित हैं। कोई इसे quantam physics में ढूँढता है, कोई energy में, कोई तंत्र में और कोई मंत्र में ढूँढता है। चेतना को सहज बुद्धि से ही समझा जा सकता है, उसे विज्ञान की परिभाषाओं में समेटा नहीं जा सकता। मन, विचार और आंतरिक संस्थान ही चेतना के वाहक हैं। आंतरिक शक्ति का प्रमाण व्यक्ति के विचारों, ओज़, तेज़ और भाषा में प्रतिलक्षित होता है। चेतना के स्वरूप का एक छोटा सा उदाहरण biofeedback के रूप में देखा जा सकता है। biofeedback में व्यक्ति अपनी समग्र चेतना को आदेशित करता है और चाही गयी स्थिति को प्राप्त करने के लिए उसे प्रेरित करता है। पूर्ण मनोयोग से किए गए प्रयासों से उस स्थिति को प्राप्त भी किया जा सकता है। ऐसे सैकड़ो उदाहरण हमारे सामने मौजूद हैं जिन्हे हम अक्सर exception कहकर इतिश्री कर लेते हैं। मानवी काया अतींद्रिय शक्ति का भंडार है, उसका बहुत छोटा सा हिस्सा ही हमारी दैनंदनी के संचालन में उपयोग मे आता है जो हमें sex के उपभोग या जीवनयापन के लिए कोशिशों में लगा दिख पड़ता है।

अतींद्रिय शक्तियों के उपार्जन के लिए अथक प्रयास करना पड़ता है, धैर्य और क्रमबद्धता का समावेश करके मन और विचार संस्थानों को एक-एक करके उद्दीपित किया जाता है। जिससे शरीर के अन्तः संस्थान में प्रमुख हमारी emotional body यानि भाव शरीर अधोगामी अवस्था को छोड़कर ऊर्ध्व गामी स्थिति को प्राप्त कर लेता है। जिसका सीधा प्रभाव व्यक्ति के ओज़, तेज़ और जीवन के मूल्यों मे दिखाई पड़ने लगता है। वह स्वार्थ और शरीर की भूख से ऊपर उठकर स्नेह, श्रद्धा, प्रेम, आस्था और आनंद की अनुभूति  करने लगता है।

इसका सीधा सा उदाहरण अभी हाल ही में सम्पन्न हुए कुम्भ में आए हुए करोड़ो लोगो की श्रद्धा और भक्ति में देखा जा सकता है। 21 अप्रैल से 21 मई 2016 तक चले इस कुम्भ मेले में देश-विदेश से पाँच करोड़ से भी ज्यादा लोगों ने उज्जैन नगरी की पवित्र क्षिप्रा में स्नान किया। आस्था, श्रद्धा, भक्ति, प्रेम, विश्वास, आनंद, उल्लास और शांति का इतना बड़ा समागम शायद ही विश्व में कहीं होता होगा। 45 से 47 डिग्री तापमान में, जहां कूलर और एसी छोड़कर जाने को मन न हो वहाँ इतनी बड़ी तादाद मे इतने लोगों का सम्मलित होना निश्चय ही आश्चर्यजनक है। ये उस भाव शरीर की सक्षमता का प्रमाण है कि यदि भाव शरीर अधोगामी स्थिति को छोड़कर उर्ध्व्गामी स्थिति में आ जाए तो असंभव भी संभव हो जाते हैं। विज्ञान यहीं पर मार खा जाता है। विज्ञान की कसौटी पर इतनी भीड़ केवल बीमारियों और दुर्घटनाओं को जन्म देगी, वो आस्था, श्रद्धा, भक्ति, प्रेम, विश्वास, आनंद, उल्लास और शांति की बात सोच ही नहीं सकता।

चेतना का रहस्य भी इसी में समाहित है। चेतना के विकास के लिए आस्था, श्रद्धा, भक्ति, प्रेम, विश्वास, आनंद, उल्लास आदि उस जमीन का काम करते हैं , जिसमे उत्तम प्रकार की फसल ली जा सकती है। शरीर को साधने का मतलब है कि मानसिक शरीर और भाव शरीर को पुष्ट किया जाए। ये बात भी विज्ञान की समझ के परे है।
कुम्भ जैसे समागम में बड़े बड़े योगी साधक सामान्य जन को शिक्षित करने के उद्देश्य से अपना समय देते आए हैं। योग और योगाभ्यास से होने वाले लाभों के बारे में जन सामान्य को जानकारी देना,  उन्हे शिक्षित करना और उनके  जीवन को भक्तिमय बनाना, इन साधकों का  मूल उद्देश्य होता है। इसी से चेतना का विस्तार होता है और इस दौरान पूरे क्षेत्र में एक positive ऊर्जा कि अनुभूति की जा सकती है।

अब मैं बड़ा हो गया हूँ..... एक कविता

एक कविता

अब मैं बड़ा हो गया हूँ;

मुझको लगता है, मैं बड़ा हो गया हूँ,
उम्र के साथ साथ, उम्रदराज हो गया हूँ;
चूंकि ढल गयी है उम्र शायद, इसीलिए,
सुफेद झुरमुटों से झाँकती चाँदनी
कहती है कि मैं बड़ा हो गया हूँ।


जब मैं छोटा था, नादान था,
जो भी होता था मन में, कह देता था;
फूलों को देखकर मन आनंदित होता था,
तितली न पकड़ आने पर रोना आता था;
पेड़ों पर लगे अमरूद चोरी करके
भागने का आनंद, कुछ और ही था।

बड़ा होने का बड़ा सुरूर था मुझे,
बुनता था ताने-बाने करूंगा क्या,
बड़ा होकर मैं,
जैसे-जैसे बड़ा हुआ, कोशिश करता हूँ,
दूसरों का मन पढ़ने की, बातें गढ़ने की,
दूसरों को अपनी तस्वीर में उतारकर
लगता है, मैं बड़ा हो गया हूँ।


वही कहता हूँ, जिससे स्व सधे,
दूर की कौड़ी देखकर ही बोलता हूँ,
सामने वाले को हर तरीके से तौलता हूँ,
जो भी बोलता हूँ, फिर सलीके से बोलता हूँ,
फ़क्र होता है अपने आप पर, कि
अपने पैरों पर तो खड़ा हो गया हूँ;
अब तो वाकई मैं बड़ा हो गया हूँ।

पर कौड़ियों के खेल में, बात गढ़नें की
रेलम-पेल में, ज़िंदगी बेमैल हो गयी है,
जो देखता हूँ वो होता नहीं है, और जो होता है
वो बचपन वाली सोच के करीब होता है;
सोचता हूँ बार-बार क्या मैं बड़ा हो गया हूँ??????
पर मैं कहाँ बढ़ा, मैं कहाँ बड़ा हो गया हूँ????????
 

Draw a mind map

"Drawing a mind map" is a simple and very effective technique to understand internal emotional make up of any individual. Internal emotional make up can be characterised by positive and negative traits/ values owned by the person. Characteristics such as being observant, confident, honest,
 trustworthiness, cool, concerned, committed, patience, conscience, sensible, empathy, emotional, irritating, egoist, anguish, doubtful, etc. can be easily gauged through the image drawn by a person in a designed setting. The activity can be conducted in groups or individually. I am using this technique since last 11 years as part of my training programme on "stress management". Participants are asked to draw a picture of their own choice in given time. They use crayons, pens, pencils and draw a picture. I analyse the pictures and indicate three strengths and three areas of improvement.
I use following to take a decision on the image drawn;'
1. Subject chosen
2. Proportion and linkages of objects

3. Use of space and page left unused
4. Colours and their integration.
5. Pressure used by the participant to draw the image
6. Relevance to life
7. Creativity and logic used
8. Finishing of the image
9. Detailing of individual objects in image and their inter-relationship
10. Total message conveyed in nutshell


I found the technique quite intresting as it involves serious researching into an image. I could found as many as 80 characteristics in the image. The images shown here have feedback of the participants as well.
This technique can be used to help children in finding behavioural, cognitive and emotional problems. Children tend to lie to hide their problems, but images do tell the exact mental and emotional frame of that child. This technique can also be used to diagnose career orientation of the children.
 

Resilience concept map

Child having troubled childhood

Are you a pushing parent? Do you want your child to be a perfectionist? Today's competition is driving many parent's crazy. They are simply running a blind race against time and going to make their children crippled if are unable to gauge potential of their child. As a parent, think whether you're a prisoner of a troubled childhood? Think again. The emotional pressures not handled properly have emerged into shortcomings which you may be realizing today. Had you experienced ample protection or complete negligence? You need not go through the rest of your life as an emotional cripple. It is possible to bounce back from adversity and go on to live a healthy, fulfilling life. In fact, more people do it than you may think. You need to develop resilience among your children.
Resilience may be an art, the ultimate art of living, and can be developed through proper training. At the heart of resilience is a belief in self—yet also a belief in one's own potential which is larger than oneself. Resilient people do not allow the adversity to define them. They find resilience by moving towards a goal beyond themselves, transcending pain and grief by perceiving bad times as a temporary state of affairs. Focusing on past experiences and sources of personal strength can help you learn about what strategies for building resilience might work for you. 

Experts argue among themselves about how much of resilience is genetic. Resilience is certainly not genetically achieved because it is contextual and develops how you deal with the situation. People do seem to differ in their inborn ability to handle life's stresses. But resilience can also be cultivated. It's possible to strengthen your inner self and your belief in yourself, to define yourself as capable and competent. It's possible to fortify your mental and emotional body. It's possible to develop a sense of mastery over the period of time.

And it's definitely necessary to go back and reinterpret past events to find the strengths you have probably had within all along. A child can not do it. You have to observe closely his/her life events and how he/she react to it. Some evidence shows that it's not really until adulthood that people begin to surmount the difficulties of childhood and to rebuild their lives.

Sometimes it is easier to be a victim; talking about how other people make you do what you do removes the obligation to change. Children find it as good refuge because sympathy can feel sweet; talk of resilience can make some feel that no one is really appreciating exactly how much they have suffered. his is the shortcut to refrain from being resilient.

As we saw earlier, resilience is not a genetic trait. It is derived from the ways children learn to think and act when they are faced with obstacles, large and small. The road to resilience comes first and foremost from children’s supportive relationships with parents, teachers, and other caring adults. These relationships become sources of strength when children work through stressful situations and painful emotions. When we help young people cultivate an approach to life that views obstacles as a critical part of success, we help them develop resilience.

 

Five Ways to Cultivate Resilience in the Classroom

1. Promote self-reflection through literary essays or small group discussions.

Short written essays or stories or small group discussion exercises that focus on heroic literary characters is an excellent way, particularly for younger students, to reflect on resilience and the role it plays in life success. After children have read a book or heard a story that features a heroic character, encourage them to reflect by answering the following questions.

·         Who was the hero in this story? Why?

·         What challenge or dilemma did the hero overcome?

·         What personal strengths did the hero possess? What choices did he/she have to make?

·         How did other people support the hero?

·         What did the hero learn?

·         How do we use the same personal strengths when we overcome obstacles in our own lives? Can you share some examples?

2. Encourage reflection through personal essays.

Written exercises that focus on sources of personal strength can help middle and high school students learn resilience-building strategies that work best for them. For example, by exploring answers to the following questions, students can become more aware of their strengths and what they look for in supportive relationships with others.

·         Write about a person who supported you during a particularly stressful or traumatic time. How did they help you overcome this challenge? What did you learn about yourself?

·         Write about a friend you helped support as he/she went through a stressful event. What did you do that most helped your friend? What did you learn about yourself?

·         Write about a time in your life when you had to cope with a difficult situation. What helped and hindered you as you overcame this challenge? What learning did you take away that will help you in the future?

3. Help children (and their parents) learn from student failures.

In her insightful article, Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail, (link is external) published in The Atlantic, middle school teacher Jessica Lahey touched on a topic near and dear to every teacher’s heart: How do I teach students to learn and grow through failure and setbacks when their parents are so intent on making them a shining star? The truth is that learning from failure is paramount to becoming a resilient young person. Teachers help when they:

·         Create a classroom culture where failure, setbacks, and disappointment are an expected and honored part of learning.

·         Establish and reinforce an atmosphere where students are praised for their hard work, perseverance, and grit — not just grades and easy successes. 

·         Hold students accountable for producing their own work, efforts from which they feel ownership and internal reward.

·         Educate and assure parents that supporting kids through failure builds resilience—one of the best developmental outcomes they can give their children.

4. Bring discussions about human resilience into the classroom.

Opportunities abound to connect resilience with personal success, achievement, and positive social change. Expand discussions about political leaders, scientists, literary figures, innovators, and inventors beyond what they accomplished to the personal strengths they possessed and the hardships they endured and overcame to reach their goals. Help students learn to see themselves and their own strengths through these success stories.

5. Build supportive relationships with students.

Good student-teacher relationships are those where students feel seen, felt, and understood by teachers. This happens when teachers are attuned to students, when they notice children’s needs for academic and emotional support. These kinds of relationships strengthen resilience. When adults reflect back on teachers who changed their lives, they remember and cherish the teachers who encouraged and supported them through difficult times. Do you have a teacher who played this role in your own life? What do you remember about them?

Acknowledgement: Marilyn Price-Mitchell, Ph.D

 

 

 

 

 

 

माँ तुझे प्रणाम

माँ

“माँ……….मेरी माँ

पकड़ी जो तेरी उंगलियाँ

हम दौड़ना सीख गये,

सुनके वो मीठी लोरियाँ

हम बोलना सीख गये,

जब छुपा तेरे आँचल के पीछे,

खुद को महफूज़ पाया मैंने

हाथ रखा जो सर पे हमारे

गिर के संभलना सीख गये,

ये “वज़ूद” है मेरा जो

तेरी दुआओं का ही करम है,

बसा चरणों मे ही तेरी

मेरा ईमान-ओ-धरम है,

जब सर रखूं तेरी गोद मे

जन्नत भी फीका मुझे लगे,

मेरी उम्र की दुआ करने वाली

मेरी उमर भी तुझे लगे,

पूछा जो मैने रब से तूने

है जन्नत कहाँ बनाया,

तेरी गोद ही है जन्नत

रब ने भी ये बताया,

अदम्य है वर्णन तेरा,मैं

कलम यहीं रोक लेता हूँ,

धन्य है तूँ हे-माई

मेरी ख़ुशनसीबी जो

मैं तेरा बेटा हूँ………..!!

मातृदिवस पर विशेष

 

Video on "Understanding stress"

Stress is a big menace. But you need stress too. Positive stress or eustress is good for personal growth as it enhances energy to fight back for growth and development. 

There is only hair line difference between a positive and negative stress. Positive stress such as challenges turn into negative one such as depressions as soon the pressure on personal demands increases. It is important to remember that emotions like depressions do not happen to you. You don’t catch depression like cold or fever. 

You create it by efforts, like every other result in your life. Stress is the unique in the category of diseases. It has no biological carrier such as germ or virus, yet it is worse than an epidemic when negatively poised. 

You know that modern high paced, mechanical life put immense strain on human system. But, can the human being take more and more worry, strain and tension, beyond a limit- without cracking up? Remaining stress free is impossible. Health implications of negative stressors are severe. 

To your utmost surprise it triggers such low profile early indicators like change in appetite, headache, anger, etc. those are never considered as intrinsic potential danger to future life and slowly turn into cancers, ulcers, heart attack, etc.

The video talks about basic concepts to understand stress.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1y52_hrOME

Please read the articles
http://pvbhopal.blogspot.in/2015/06/our-body-chemistry-article-in-hindi.html
http://pvbhopal.blogspot.in/2015/10/internal-chemistry.html

Video on "The Science & Art of Self Management- Coping Strategies"

The mental and emotional strength play vital role in total potential, we have. Most of the energy depletion takes place because of poor mental and emotional status. Feeling tired, unable to link thoughts or unable to concentrate, not getting right words in right time, etc. are some of the indicators of poor mental health. Emotional health relates to being confident or lost confidence; committed or non-committed; enthusiastic or have a poor start-up; passionate or illusive; sensible or impulsive; and empathetic or intolerant; etc. Being emotional certainly does not mean being sympathetic, weepy, sorry for oneself, joyless, touchy, sadistic, etc. Emotional strength is the key strength and major part of our potential. 90% of our energy depletion takes place because of poor mental and emotional health.
To enhance potential one has to understand the process of coping up and building a good mental and emotional health. Only life-style make-over can bring permanent and sustainable changes. 
Coping strategies guide us to take control of our own health. We can achieve total health only by becoming accountable for ourselves. Sound health means sound physical, mental and emotional health. Take charge of your own health and remain healthy & safe.
This video in the series of Total Health Management talks about coping strategies and practical plans to maintain a safe and healthy life.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9wPQ_342nIg&feature=youtu.be

Video on "The Science & Art of Managing Self" - Part 2

The self management is key to life. Self management includes management of our physical, mental and emotional health. We are guided by thousands and thousands emotional thoughts in our daily life. One positive emotion gives a sense of joy and happiness whereas one negative thought takes us into a gloomy world. Each thought put the immune system into action and thousands and may be millions of chemicals are pumped into our system. These chemicals are responsible for our emotional management. More positivism means more good chemicals and more negativity means more negative chemicals. Its a personal choice to design quality of life. Your thought process guides the mind-body connection and as the connection become permanent our life becomes what we intend to. The total health as perceived by us can provide us the kind of potential we want to excel in our life.
The video is collection and collation of wide variety of information and research from ayurveda, epic documents of spiritual science,  vedas, upnishads and western science.
The video is in two parts.

The Science & Art of Managing Self- Part 2
Self management is an art and science too. Manging my physical, mental and emotional body makes up my Total Health.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTQ19t7niZg&feature=youtu.be
Also have a look at the article
http://pvbhopal.blogspot.in/2015/11/are-you-discharged.html

Video on "The Science & Art of Managing Self"- Part 1

The self management is key to life. Self management includes management of our physical, mental and emotional health. We are guided by thousands and thousands emotional thoughts in our daily life. One positive emotion gives a sense of joy and happiness whereas one negative thought takes us into a gloomy world. Each thought put the immune system into action and thousands and may be millions of chemicals are pumped into our system. These chemicals are responsible for our emotional management. More positivism means more good chemicals and more negativity means more negative chemicals. Its a personal choice to design quality of life. Your thought process guides the mind-body connection and as the connection become permanent our life becomes what we intend to. The total health as perceived by us can provide us the kind of potential we want to excel in our life.
The video is collection and collation of wide variety of information and research from ayurveda, epic documents of spiritual science,  vedas, upnishads and western science.
The video is in two parts.

The Science and Art of managing Self- Part 1
A video providing lots of valuable information on life management and keep the health in focus.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FsqSF-yAeZI&feature=youtu.be

Anger management: why we feel rage and how to control it- James Kirby and Stan Steindl

© Beautiful article by James Kirby and Stan Steindl in Brisbane Times

You’re at the park with the kids. Everyone’s having fun, and then a strange dog appears. There’s no owner around. It’s eyeballing the kids. Immediately your threat system becomes activated.

You stand alert, fully focused on the dog; heart racing, fists clenched. The dog bolts in, baring its teeth, and you pounce. You’re in survival mode, full of rage and violence. You yell fiercely, and you kick and hit, or grab the dog by the scruff of the neck, not caring if you snap its jaw.

The dog yelps its surrender and flees, while you stand guard in front of your children.

This type of anger and aggression is the “fight” side of the “fight or flight response”. This physiological response, according to evolutionary psychology, prepares our bodies to fight off a threat or to flee.

It’s such an important part of human survival, and yet it can come at a cost for modern humans. Anger, and aggression in particular, can have serious consequences when it manifests in violence on the streets, in the home and elsewhere in the community.

Why we all get angry???

Anger is one of the seven universal emotions that are common across gender, ages and cultures, according to leading emotion researcher Paul Ekman. Anger, he says, can be the result of something interfering with us achieving a goal we care about, or when we experience or perceive something threatening to us, either physically or psychologically.

Anger is quick (think of the term “short-tempered”), it focuses all of our attention on the threat, and it manifests in our bodies, usually starting in the pit of our stomach, rising up to our face and causing us to grimace and clench our fists. When anger builds, it’s expressed physically with a yell, punch or kick.

  We all experience anger from time to time. Michael Bentley/Flickr  

In the short term, anger can be powerful and rewarding; the person who is angry typically gets what they want.

But do you like being in the company of an angry person? Most people say no, and that is one of the chief consequences of anger: it is often damaging to relationships and isolating for the angry person.

So anger itself is not the problem, it’s how we manage it and express it.

Anger Disorder:-

There is no clear diagnosis of an anger disorder, but the psychiatric diagnostic manual does include “intermittent explosive disorder”, which is characterised by recurrent behavioural outbursts representing a failure to control aggressive impulses. This affects 7.3% of the population at some point in their life and 3.9% in the past 12 months.

Anger, however, is a common clinical presentation that features across an array of different mental health problems, such as depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, substance use disorders and many more.

If you begin to notice that you are on edge quite a lot, do things that you later regret, are quick to react instead of respond, and that you have people in your life who have told you that you tend to get angry, it might be helpful to do something about it.

You can begin by speaking to your general practitioner and, if needed, ask for a referral to see a psychologist. Or you can go straight to a psychologist if you’re happy to forgo the Medicare rebate.

Managing anger

Anger Management:-

In therapy for anger, clients are asked:

What would be your greatest fear in giving up or significantly reducing your anger?

Many respond with a fear of being hurt, fear of not being able to stand up for oneself, or fear of unjust or unfair things happening. These are all reasonable responses.

But anger is not aggressiveness. Anger may lead to aggressiveness, but when we feel angry, we can try to relate to it in a way that invokes feelings of wisdom, strength, courage and assertiveness.

  One of the problems with anger is when it shows up, it can lead to aggressiveness. Many group's and individual's anger-management programs, run by psychologists, have good success rates. A meta-analysis examining anger-management programs across 92 studies found that cognitive-behaviour therapy (CBT) strategies helped to significantly reduce anger and aggressiveness, and also to increase positive behaviours.

Some clinicians are also using a newer technique called compassion-focused therapy (CFT).

CFT differs to past therapies, as it focuses on understanding how our brains are “tricky things” that can get us caught up in all sorts of difficult patterns and loops. So, from a CFT perspective, we need to first understand the brain and how it functions so we can better help ourselves when anger shows.

Anger expert Russell Kolts has developed a new CFT-based anger-management program called True Strength, which he is evaluating with prisoners. The aim is to start directing compassion toward ourselves to help us self-soothe, feel more comfortable and work with the distress and negative feelings that fuel our anger.

Tips to manage anger:-

The Australian Psychological Society has some tips to help manage anger for when it shows in everyday life:

Identify the triggers for your anger, such as environments and people.

Notice the bodily warning signs of anger: tightness in shoulders, increased heart rate, hot face.

Draw on a strategy that works for you. This could include slowing down your breathing, imagery, evaluating your thoughts, taking time out and changing your environment, or using relaxation skills.

Rehearse your anger strategies. Imagine being in a situation that makes you angry and draw upon one of your skills.

Remember, anger in itself is not the problem. The problem lies in how we manage and express it. The Dalai Lama may have said it best: “The true hero is one who conquers his own anger.”

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Mental and Emotional Body Management

Major, minor and sub-minor energy centres

All these years, I watched the world as an observer. I always remain confused with the way of life people apt to follow. Everybody wants to grow rich in no time, wants material  and career gains as early as possible and for those gains he keeps on hopping. At the end of it, what he gets? Frustration, grudge, anxiety, diseases and hospitalisation. I was confused about the life and about the way of leading the life. I was confused as why people loose their peace of mind for piece of money? Money is certainly a most desired commodity but I will get to the tune of my competence.
As the civilisation began few thousand years ago, there were hardly any diseases. People died of either old age or injury in those days. Today we have the best of medical facilities and health care systems but the immune system of the human at large has failed. The cells within the body starts fighting and killing each other and we become diseased. We have endless numbers of diseases hovering on us. We die for no justifiable reasons today. Death due to starvation, disaster or war can have justification but millions of people dying of cancer, hypertension, heart failure, diabetes and anxiety has no justification at all. Who is responsible for the untimely death of millions?
I am a mining engineer but entered the wellness industry to understand the way of life that will "NOT" make me sick at the end.

Once I was reading about cell biology. I read that there are trillions of cells in the body. I also read that every cell is unique and can produce different chemicals in different situations. E.g. if I am happy the cell will produce chemical and if I am sad the same cell will produce different chemicals (see yellow circle in the figure). I was confused that if the same cell can generate different chemicals in different state of mind then how we can justify that the interpretation by a doctor (anyone for that matter) about any patient's health is correct. It is just an indication at that moment of time. That's all. I decided to get some confirmation so searched some web site and found some addresses of cell biologist expert in human cells. I humbly wrote about my confusion and sincerely admitted that it is not my field so want to understand in layman's language. The expert preferred not to respond to my curious mails. I concluded that no one in this world can tell you exactly the cause of your disease and can even guarantee that he will cure you 100%. Everything that is visible is just incidental and symptomic at that moment of time. The next moment, the mental and emotional state of the individual changes, these symptoms and conditions changes.
I saw my close ones dying, becoming diseased because of anxiety, grudges and poor life-style management. Our thought process decides the quality of our life. Only handful of doctors access and evaluate the mental and emotional status of the individual before treating him that has a larger role in getting well or remaining sick. Others simply treat him on symptoms visible at that moment of time.

Taxonomy of mental and emotional body

My thoughts are the main culprits if I spoil my life with diseases. My thoughts remain with me from the moment I got conceived in my mother's womb. These thoughts interacted with the outside world even I stayed there for nine months. My thoughts are the major inputs for my mental and emotional body. Let me clarify that physical body is what we see and, mental and emotional bodies are energy bodies those are governed by thousands of energy clusters within our body. Our thought process generate millions of chemicals those flow with the blood. Negative or harmful chemicals cloud the energy clusters resulting in poor response. Good chemicals cleanse these energy clusters thus improving the quality of interaction. When the energy clusters remain clouded we remain in descendant state and when these clusters are cleansed and charged we move in ascendant state.  If thoughts are polluted, full of anxiety and negativity; our mental and emotional body remain in descendent state meaning thereby that we remain lost in wish/ fancy or reasoning, lust/ sex and ego. our life becomes hell and we are most likely to become sick and diseased with diabetes, hypertension and millions of other diseases for which  nothing much can be done. Correction can be applied only by moderating the life-style vis-à-vis thinking style. The basic principles of life i.e. yam, niyam, pratihara, asan, pranayama, dhyan, dharna and Samadhi  are known as asthang yoga. If we really want to move in the ladder of happiness meaning thereby, taking life towards ascendant state then the only solution is to apply the principles of asthang yoga in our life. Change your thoughts and change your mind-body connections.

Also read http://pvbhopal.blogspot.in/2015/11/are-you-discharged.html
and http://pvbhopal.blogspot.in/2015/11/rewire-brain-rejuvenate-body.html