7 Ways to manage your anger
Anger affects people in different ways. There are people
who have no patience and get angry easily A inevitable in life and it is
important to know safe ways to manage your anger better.
Discussions with
conflicts can make you feel very uncomfortable. The best way to resolve a
dispute or a disagreement with another person is to discuss with him.
If you feel angry
prefer to do something else, for example go jogging or strike a pillow. Prefer
to scream against a tree or a car than against another person. You can also
talk to someone you trust.
It is important to
retain and learn to express and manage your anger safely. Otherwise may harm
someone else or yourself.
1. Try to understand why you are angry.
It is important to
understand that you have reached the point where you will get angry. If a
particular situation or a person is causing you anger, talk the matter with
someone you trust. A faithful friend, a specialist, your doctor or psychologist
can talk with you and help you.
2. Try to rest and relax.
Rest can put
things in proper perspective. The relaxation can be achieved with a walk or
just to sit quietly in a quiet environment. Listening to music, reading a book,
watching a film, taking a bath, swimming, yoga are activities that can help you
relax.
Too often people
forget to devote time to relax. It is important every day to save some time for
relaxation. Choose activities that you enjoy to do at that time.
3. Violence is no solution
to anger.
Sometimes it happens that someone
makes you angry so much that you make a verbal attack on him/her.
Violence can also be a way to
externalize your frustration when you do not know why you may have been upset.
This is dangerous because it can lead to acts that have consequences.
To be ready to prevent the
expression of violence when you are angry, write a list of conditions, people
or things that cause you irritation. After you record all the things that can
make you angry consider ways to avoid them. Consider also ways on how to
prevent your self from acting violent.
There are people who can help you
find the ways to overcome the feelings that make you to want to attack someone
verbally.
4. You must realize that
everyone in their lives have disagreements or disputes.
The reasons for your disagreement
with someone else are many. For example it can be hard to understand the
thoughts of someone else on a given subject. In such cases, try to make then
talk about how they see things.
Also the values, needs and goals
are likely to contrast with those of someone else.
It is not unusual
misunderstandings and disagreements between people to arise because they do not
understand well what other are trying to do or try to say.
5. Solve any conflicts and
misunderstandings
The misunderstandings and
conflicts that are not solved can create confusion and a sense of challenge.
In addition this situation can
lead to stress, tension, insomnia,
diseases, poor quality relationships, aggression or violence and family
breakdown.
6. Address conflicts at a
personal level.
If there is a conflict with
another person is very easy to keep the anger and tension between the two. It
is particularly important to solve the dispute especially if they are people
who see each other often, otherwise this can create a very unpleasant
situation.
In such cases talking to the
person you have a dispute with can either be helpful or not. If you try to
approach this person, make sure that you do it in a way that will help.
If you are afraid that this
person may become violent or offensive, try not to approach them directly.
Initially try to speak to them on the phone to see if they are willing to find
a solution to the problem between you and them.
You can tell that person how you
feel because of his own opinion, but do not try to tell him/her how he/she
should feel. It is possible in such situation to either agree or disagree with
him/her.
In some cases it is useful to
have a third person help you resolve the conflict. The third person could serve
as a bridge between you and others and help each party understand the views of
others.
7.There are significant
advantages of resolving disputes.
You have many reasons why you
should try to negotiate and resolve a dispute or conflict with someone.
Initially you will get the
feeling that you have achieved something important and will make you feel more
positive. You will feel more comfortable, more relaxed, and healthier and you
will have a good sleep at night.
Additionally it will help you to
build stronger relations and more generally will make you feel happy.
In conclusion it is important
that you learn to express your anger and your nerves in a safe manner. The
activities that help you relax can be a good way to manage your anger better.
Resolving differences with others will make you feel more positive and happy.
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